Unicorn Babies. . . Do They Exist?

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I get the question, “when will my baby sleep through the night” ALL the time. Just the other day, I had this conversation with my friend in my Facebook DMs:

FRIEND: I have a really good friend that I will be sending your way in the next few months. She has a unicorn baby now who is turning six-months-old, and she’s expecting again!

ME: What is a unicorn baby?!

FRIEND: Haha! A mythical, magical baby who never cries and has slept pretty much through the night since day one!

ME: Oh!

FRIEND: Yes, we have a couple of friends with unicorn babies that think I’m crazy for leaving gatherings by 5:30 to get my baby home in time for bed.

ME: I’m not so sure these people are really telling the truth.

FRIEND: I agree. I think that they have a different definition for sleeping through the night. When I tell them my baby will sleep anywhere between 11-12 hours straight through, they can’t believe it.

So, do unicorn babies exist? Is there a baby sleeping through the night somewhere over the rainbow? Does it also poop out glitter and never cry? In real life these “unicorn babies” are few and far between. If you’re lucky enough to have one, wonderful! However, hearing about a baby sleeping through the night can cause lots of undue stress and anxiety for those with babies who may not have mythical powers. 

I’m not sure how your baby sleeping through the night became become correlated to whether you’re a good parent or not.

The truth of the matter is that some babies are inherently good sleepers, no matter what schedule they are on. Studies have shown that genetics play a large role in whether our babies will be good nighttime sleepers. Does this mean that if your baby doesn’t have the magic sleep-through-the-night unicorn gene she won’t sleep?! No!

Studies have also shown that environment and parental sleep interventions (nurture) also play a key role in baby sleep. Interventions like sticking to routine and providing a consistent, age-appropriate bedtime can help these non-rainbow pooping babies sleep just as well as their colorful compadres.

These interventions may also include leaving parties at 5:30pm, like my friend, to ensure that your baby stays on schedule and gets to bed at an age-appropriate hour to enable her to get the sleep she needs. The American Academy of Sleep Medicine recently released pediatric sleep recommendations for the first time ever–did you know that your infant-aged baby (between four and 12 months) needs 12-16 hours of sleep in a 24-hour period, and your one to two-year-old needs 11-14 hours of sleep in a 24-hour period?

So, how do you cobble together your own unicorn baby if she isn’t born shooting rainbows out of her cherub cheeks while she sleeps soundly all night and giggles all day?

  • Stick to routine
  • Create a sleep environment conducive to sleep (dark, cool, quiet! Some of my favorite things to help). Use the right swaddle, when appropriate. 
  • Follow a consistent, age-appropriate bedtime that allow your child to get the sleep she needs (babies and young children do best with a bedtime between 6 and 8pm–yes, that early!)
  • Be patient with “regressions” and try to gain a new perspective
  • Give her the opportunity to try to fall asleep on her own: drowsy, but awake. 
  • Sprinkle her with glitter. 

OK, so maybe not that last one, but you get the point. You can help your baby learn to be a better sleeper. And one thing IS certain: babies develop so quickly over the first months and years–even unicorn babies! And even unicorn babies have sleep disturbances. Remaining consistent with your routine, schedule, and approach is essential to helping your baby sleep through the night, even amidst some disturbances.

So stop wishing for a unicorn baby! If you take the right steps, you too can have one of your own–just don’t forget the glitter!

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Arielle - Resident Sleep Expert
Hello, I’m Arielle! I am the Founder and Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant at Expect to Sleep Again Sleep Consulting, LLC. After having grown up in the Granite State, I earned my Bachelor of Science in Journalism from Boston University and settled in MA. I became a self-proclaimed “sleep geek” after the birth of my daughter, and have since made it my mission to help families get the rest they need in order to enjoy a happier, healthier life. I offer a variety of services including online sleep courses for parents, in-person workshops, and individualized 1:1 sleep consultations. I’m also launching my sleep consultant certification course in September 2019 for those who wish to help others sleep! I live with my five-year-old daughter and longhaired dachshund in Sterling, MA.